Because I can slowly see him turning into Richard.
He flipped a desk at school,
he grabbed someone's arm,
he's telling me that he doesn't have to listen to me.
He's watching what his dad's doing.
He thinks it's okay.
The worst part is that Richard's son
has seen the abuse.
He's heard Richard call me fat, bitch, shut up,
whore, stupid, you're ugly.
If Richard's son continues to see
the verbal and physical abuse,
he'll end up just like his dad.
Jordan says much of what she has endured
has been in front of the watchful eyes
of Richard's 10 year old son.
Now Ashley is the mother of this little boy.
And says after Richard was arrested for abusing her,
she did end things.
But she too worries about what her son has witnessed.
I completely understand what Jordan is going through
because I dealt with it myself.
During our relationship,
Richard was abusive mentally, emotionally, and physically.
Every time Richard would lash out at me
he would always cry, apologize,
say he was sorry he would never do it again.
I would take him back
and then it would repeat.
Richard and I got into an argument one evening.
He was literally pulling me by my hair.
He picked me up and tossed me
into his mom's room
where I hit the corner of her dresser.
And that's when I split my head open.
I had a bleach blonde hair,
and my hair was literally red.
There was so much blood.
He made me stay at his mom's house for three days.
Took my phone,
he did not let me leave.
One time I was cooking dinner,
he didn't want to attend to our child
and he basically went off the deep end.
He picked our son up and tossed him
about five feet away onto the couch
because he was upset with me.
He slapped me
and then started pulling my hair
and my parents had to intervene.
I was basically done with the situation
and I cut ties with him and that was it.
My son is definitely seeing the abuse
in the home with Jordan and Richard.
My son has told me about an incident
that happened where Richard had hit Jordan
in the face with a broom stick.
My son somehow intervened
and his dad actually elbowed him in the cheek.
It's very upsetting that my son is seeing
the verbal and physical abuse.
Richard should turn his life around
and do what's right for his son.
Tell me about your son.
He's my saving grace.
I love that boy.
The most powerful role model for that boy is you.
And they start to mimic even little nuances of who you are.
Things that were put on you as you were coming up,
you're now modeling for him.
And he's gonna do exactly what you're doing
if you don't do something to change it.
This is his mom right here, right?
You're his mom, Ashley?
Yes I am.
Okay now how's he doing at school?
He definitely has behavioral issues.
He's flipped desks, he's thrown tables and chairs, yes.
If you begin to change,
then you'll see changes in him
because he'll continue to watch you.
Hear how a dad’s abusive behavior toward his girlfriend is affecting his 10-year-old son.
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