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Can You Trust Animals Without Sight? ft. Blind YouTuber Molly Burke

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  • ♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
  • ♪ Oh, oh, oh ♪
  • ♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
  • - Now, come and meet my pack!
  • (upbeat electronic music)
  • ♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh ♪
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  • - Guys, I always wanted to have my own TV show,
  • my own channel where I interview anybody that I love,
  • anybody that I want to inspire,
  • anybody that I want to ask questions,
  • anybody that I want to connect, relate, communicate,
  • and today, we have someone that I've been following,
  • and actually, Mesa introduced me to her,
  • and her name is Molly Burke,
  • and she has an amazing dog
  • that we're gonna put in the water today,
  • 'cause he has some kind of trauma about the water,
  • but I just sharing my dreams with you
  • because I always wanted to have my own talk show,
  • and today, we are at The Ranch,
  • doing that dream coming reality.
  • So, thank you.
  • - This is your Oprah moment.
  • - This is my Oprah moment,
  • everybody! - You're Oprah!
  • - That's right!
  • Cesar Millan Oprah.
  • Oo, oo!
  • Okay? Yeah, so--
  • - Cesar's comin' for you, Oprah.
  • - And I love her because she talks a lot,
  • and she's Canadian,
  • and she's Irish, as well,
  • and I just love her spirit because we just met,
  • and we're pretty much open to talk about anything,
  • and I love the trust.
  • I love how you embrace me,
  • and how I'm embracing you,
  • and just the feeling of trust.
  • So, let's talk a little bit about trust.
  • You have a dog that
  • you have to connect at that level of trust.
  • It's not that he's guiding you,
  • it's not only that he's helping you,
  • it's just that level of trust.
  • My clients that don't have any problems, you know,
  • they can't trust their dogs.
  • - Yeah.
  • So, I'm blind.
  • - Mm-hmm.
  • - You know that,
  • but people watching might not.
  • (laughs)
  • 'Cause usually people look at me and they're like,
  • "No, you're not!,"
  • (laughs)
  • 'cause I don't look like this stereotype
  • that the media's been given.
  • - Right.
  • - But I lost the majority of my vision when I was 14,
  • but I was born legally blind due to a disease called
  • retinitis pigmentosa,
  • and I actually grew up really afraid of dogs,
  • and a lot of blind people have fears of animals,
  • because we can't see them,
  • and we can't talk to them.
  • I can't tell a dog I'm blind,
  • and what they need to do to help me,
  • and so, especially always - That's a good point,
  • by the way. - Being really petite,
  • you know, dogs would just run up to me and lick my face,
  • and I couldn't see them coming.
  • - Right.
  • - So, it'd come out of the blue,
  • or they'd run and jump onto my chest.
  • - Right.
  • - So, even now that I've spent the last 12 years of my life
  • with a guide dog by my side 24/7,
  • I'm still a little fearful of dogs
  • that are not well trained,
  • because if they're gonna come up to me and jump on me,
  • and I can't see it, it freaks me out, of course!
  • If somebody comes and jumps on your back
  • in the middle of your dinner,
  • you're gonna be like, "Oh my god, what happened?"
  • So, that's how I feel around a lot of untrained dogs.
  • - Yeah, I'm afraid of people who are not well trained.
  • - Yeah! Exactly! - That happens to me.
  • A lot of people jumps on me,
  • and it's like, "Cesar! (laughs)
  • "Take a picture with me.
  • "Talk to my dog."
  • They actually bring their phone,
  • so that I can talk to their dogs.
  • - Oh my god. - So, I understand.
  • Yes, Molly, that happens to me all the time,
  • especially at the airports.
  • Peter can tell you.
  • - Oh yeah, I deal with a lot of ridiculous people, too.
  • I get it, for sure.
  • - Yeah.
  • So, we both have a fear of things not trained.
  • - Yes, exactly!
  • (laughing)
  • But my parents really wanted me to have the option
  • of getting a guide dog.
  • - Yes, I love that.
  • - So, they wanted to break that fear,
  • and there was only one dog that I liked.
  • It was a Polish Lowland Sheepdog, named Ponder,
  • and it was a show dog,
  • so it was very well behaved,
  • which is why I liked it.
  • It wasn't the breed,
  • it was just that it was a well-behaved dog.
  • But for them, it was like, "Okay, the one breed she likes
  • "is a Polish Lowland Sheepdog."
  • So, they went out of their way
  • to get a Polish Lowland Sheepdog--
  • - Can you please Google that one?
  • Because it's not very common.
  • - They're very rare.
  • - Yes, yes, yes.
  • - They're very rare.
  • We had to drive eight hours to get one.
  • - The first book they gave me, Molly,
  • was encyclopedia about dogs.
  • So, I know all the breeds in the world.
  • I memorized them all.
  • To me, that was the most exciting thing.
  • So, I know exactly what you're talking about,
  • but not a lot of people
  • gets to seem them. - No, not a lot of
  • of people know them.
  • They're related to the bearded collie.
  • So, a lot of people think they're bearded collie,
  • but they're not.
  • Yeah, so they got a Polish Lowland Sheepdog,
  • and of course, it was our first family pet,
  • and Polish Lowland Sheepdogs are very stubborn,
  • and my parents had never had to train a dog before.
  • So, he was very not well trained.
  • He was wild.
  • He would jump the fence.
  • Being a herding dog, if we would run,
  • he would nip our ankles.
  • It's what he's meant to do.
  • - Yeah.
  • - But it did make me more comfortable around dogs,
  • just having one in the house,
  • and understanding them a little more.
  • - Yeah.
  • - And then, I got my first guide dog, Gypsy,
  • when I was 13 years old,
  • and it is, like, no--
  • - That was your first dog?
  • At 13 years of age?
  • - Yeah, 13,
  • and I always joked that I was a teen mom.
  • (laughs)
  • Because when you get a guide dog,
  • it's not a family pet,
  • it's your dog.
  • So, I had to do everything for this dog,
  • and I was just 13, you know?
  • And at that same time, I started losing
  • the majority of my vision.
  • So, it was a very difficult time.
  • - So, did you ever got to see things?
  • - Yeah, so I was born with sight,
  • but legally blind,
  • but I could see color,
  • I could read print, you know,
  • I could play soccer.
  • For all intents and purposes, I was sighted.
  • - Yeah.
  • - But it's a degenerative disease.
  • So, it slowly deteriorates over time.
  • - Right, right, right.
  • - And so, I got Gypsy,
  • and there is no relationship
  • like a guide dog and their handler,
  • even within the service dog world,
  • because my life is in his paws.
  • It really is.
  • Because he has to...
  • With a lot of service dogs,
  • you're telling them what to do.
  • So, for example, in the situation
  • of a wheelchair-support dog.
  • You ask them to go push the button to go open the door.
  • You ask them to go grab something for you
  • that you've dropped.
  • - Right.
  • - With Gallop, he has to make decisions for me.
  • - Gee.
  • - He has to look,
  • which is why of all service dogs,
  • they have to pass the most tests.
  • They have to be the most highly trained,
  • and the most highly qualified
  • because they have to be leaders.
  • - Yeah.
  • - They have to be able to look at a situation,
  • and say, "Okay, my mom wants to get here,
  • "but there's no safe route to get her there.
  • "I have to now make a decision of how I can get her there."
  • So, it's a lot of pressure.
  • He's crossing busy streets.
  • I'm telling him when to go,
  • but it's up to him to decide is it safe.
  • So, there's so much that these dogs do,
  • guide dogs, and 24/7.
  • So, the trust that I have to put into a four-legged creature
  • to keep me alive every day is unbelievable, and that was--
  • - What do you say, like, low, medium, high trust?
  • What would you--
  • - Oh my, I mean, it becomes apart of you.
  • I cannot question anything he does.
  • I just have to believe.
  • - Amazing partnership.
  • - And that's why it really is like no other relationship.
  • Gypsy was the first time I had ever known
  • that level of love.
  • Like, what real...
  • You know, you hear parents say,
  • "There's no love like the love for your child,"
  • but that was that for me.
  • Loving Gypsy and trusting her,
  • that she was gonna be there and keep me safe
  • all of the time,
  • and that she would know what I needed.
  • It's like nothing else. - But love and trust is
  • two different things because a lot of my clients,
  • they love their dogs,
  • but they don't trust their dog.
  • - Right.
  • - And I know a lot of people who love their parents,
  • but don't trust their parents.
  • - Mm-hmm.
  • You know what I'm saying?
  • So, trust is it's own world.
  • It's own experience.
  • It's own connection, you know?
  • And then it's respect, and then it's love.
  • So, I have a sign in the beginning of The Ranch that's,
  • "Trust, Respect, Love," you know?
  • And I encourage people to develop that with dogs
  • because it's easier to develop what you're saying
  • about this connection, this harmony,
  • this fitting things together, you know?
  • Even though they're two different species,
  • but the partnership,
  • and the family relation,
  • and the becoming one is achievable,
  • and as a father,
  • I want to achieve that with my kids, obviously,
  • and as a son, I want to achieve that
  • with my mother and my father.
  • As a brother, I want to achieve that,
  • but I have first achieved that with dogs.
  • I can actually evaluate
  • how much trust I have to a human
  • based on all the memories I have with the dogs,
  • and that's very incredible what you do,
  • because you're blind.
  • That's the only way you can do it.
  • - Yeah. It's my lifeline, these dogs,
  • and so, with Gypsy, I went and I got her at 13,
  • and I had to live eight hours away
  • from my family for a month,
  • and every day, 6:00 a.m. you're getting up,
  • you're having breakfast.
  • You're training all day,
  • one-on-one with trainers for a month,
  • and it's very interesting,
  • and I had to do the same thing
  • when I got Gallop seven years later after Gypsy passed.
  • The whole month of training is this balancing act
  • of learning to trust each other,
  • gain respect, and bond.
  • It's a magical experience.
  • - Yeah.
  • - It really is.
  • That always say in the guide dog world, you know,
  • "that first transition from number one to number two
  • is the hardest." Because you don't know what to expect,
  • and no dog will ever guide the same,
  • will ever feel the same.
  • - Is he taller than the previous--
  • - He is. She was 65 pounds, he's 90.
  • - Oh, shoot.
  • That's a big difference. (laughs)
  • - Yeah, and I'm 4'10 1/2".
  • - That's all you are, four feet--
  • - Yeah, and I'm wearing little wedges right now on my--
  • - Yeah.
  • - But when I got Gallop, we were both 85 pounds.
  • So, he literally weighed the exact same amount as I did.
  • - Oh, wow.
  • 85 pounds, you were?
  • - Yeah, I did.
  • Now, I don't.
  • (laughing)
  • He gained five pounds, I gained 20.
  • - Okurr!
  • (laughing)
  • - The first day, I did this walk with him,
  • and we were out and we all would meet back at a cafe.
  • So, we'd walk around the town,
  • and we'd get back to the cafe,
  • and I sat down,
  • and I just burst into tears.
  • I was like, "I'm going home. I don't want a dog.
  • "Like, this isn't Gypsy."
  • And it was--
  • - Gee!
  • - They're so, so, so different.
  • Gypsy was like Stella.
  • - Wow!
  • - Yes. Very different dogs.
  • - Jesus.
  • - She was diva, hyper, like I'd tap my shoulders,
  • she'd get up and dance with me.
  • She'd sit on her back feet,
  • and sit pretty like a human.
  • She was full of personality,
  • and spunk, and life,
  • and she'd pose for the camera,
  • and she loved attention,
  • and she'd run around and bark.
  • He's like this,
  • and I was like, "This dog has no personality.
  • "He's boring. He's slow."
  • I just didn't get him,
  • and I just cried for hours,
  • and I told them, "I'm leaving."
  • It was a Friday,
  • and they said, "Give him 'til Monday.
  • "He deserves a chance."
  • - That's right!
  • - "He deserves a chance.
  • "Give him 'til Monday,
  • "and if you wanna leave on Monday, you can leave,"
  • and I remember sitting back at the training facility
  • later that day,
  • and I was sitting on a couch alone,
  • and he's laying at my feet,
  • and during their first two years of training at the school,
  • they're not allowed to go on furniture.
  • Once you get them, and they're your dog,
  • and you bring them back home it's up to you.
  • - Wait, how many?
  • - Two years. They get trained for two years.
  • - Okay.
  • - So, they're not allowed on furniture
  • for the first two years of their life.
  • - What that means is rules, boundaries, limitations.
  • - Yes.
  • - That's what it means.
  • - Exactly.
  • - So, most people, when they adopt a dog,
  • the first thing they want is for the dog
  • to go on the furniture.
  • So, here's to your situation because what I tell people
  • is three kinds of humans in the world about dogs.
  • People who love dogs,
  • people who are afraid of dogs,
  • and people who don't like dogs,
  • and that's pretty much it, right?
  • And so, when a dog doesn't understand
  • rules, boundaries, limitations,
  • is going to affect people who are afraid of dogs.
  • It's going to affect people who don't like dogs
  • because that dog has no understanding about boundaries.
  • No understanding about rules.
  • No understanding about limitations.
  • So, it's gonna come across anti-social
  • because, in order for a dog to exist in our society,
  • we have to also remember
  • there is people who are afraid of dogs.
  • There are people who don't like dogs,
  • and we must respect their choices.
  • - Yeah.
  • - You know what I mean?
  • And so, what you just said right there,
  • what makes therapy dogs so special,
  • is because they go through the exercise, the discipline,
  • and the affection.
  • So, they have this beautiful structure,
  • and it's nice and clean,
  • because it's somebody's life,
  • versus a dog that doesn't have that specific job,
  • doesn't have clear rules, boundaries, limitations.
  • It doesn't have this beautiful lifestyle with a purpose.
  • He has a purpose.
  • - Yeah.
  • - You know what I mean?
  • And his life is not structured.
  • So, this poor dog is going to more often be confused
  • because his life is not beautiful.
  • He has no purpose in life.
  • Structure is gonna confuse him,
  • and he's gonna be frustrated because nothing is clear.
  • - Yeah.
  • You know what I'm saying?
  • So, the pursuit of happiness is so important for everybody.
  • The reason for me to come into America is
  • because my happiness was to learn from
  • people who were working with dogs.
  • I didn't know I was gonna become The Dog Whisperer.
  • I didn't know that I was gonna train people.
  • I just knew that I wanted to work around dogs,
  • and that was my pursuit of happiness.
  • So, when you find a purpose in life,
  • and when we give them a purpose in life,
  • that makes them feel that they achieve something in life.
  • - Oh, he loves it.
  • If I take a day off,
  • and chill at home all day,
  • and don't go out,
  • he still goes on walks.
  • - Right.
  • - But he doesn't go on harness
  • because I'm takin' my day off, sleeping,
  • and being lazy.
  • The moment he sees that harness,
  • he's like, "Get it on me! Get it on me!"
  • He's trying to shove his head in it.
  • He loves to work.
  • If he sees me go out without him, the odd occasion,
  • he's sitting at the door waiting, like,
  • "No, I need to help you.
  • "I need to help you."
  • - Right.
  • - He really knows his purpose.
  • He knows what he's here to do,
  • and that's a big part of the conversation around retirement.
  • Not every dog wants to do this,
  • and once they're done, they'll show you.
  • We don't force them--
  • - What do they do?
  • - So, a lot of guide dogs,
  • if they're kind of getting to the end of their work-life,
  • and they don't wanna work anymore,
  • they won't go in the harness.
  • So, you shake the harness, they won't go in it.
  • When you try to walk them on a harness,
  • they'll turn around to go back home.
  • So, they'll show you signs.
  • They'll lay down when they're supposed
  • to be doing a command.
  • - Right.
  • - So, they show you.
  • "I don't wanna do this anymore."
  • So, we never make them work
  • when they don't want to, you know?
  • It's a two-way street.
  • - Right, right.
  • - But he loves it,
  • and most dogs do.
  • They love to have that job, that purpose,
  • and the school that I go to, the MIRA Foundation,
  • they do mainly praise rewards.
  • They train them with praise not food.
  • So, it's mainly love, affection.
  • - Mm-hmm.
  • - So, that's what he works for.
  • He wants to be loved,
  • and wants the affection. - What is your
  • pursuit of happiness?
  • What is yours?
  • - I'm happiest when I'm helping other people.
  • - How do you help them?
  • What do you do?
  • - I mean, I try to use my own story, my own experiences,
  • my own challenges--
  • - It's inspiring.
  • - To help other people to educate,
  • to break barriers and stereotypes,
  • change misconceptions,
  • and to help other people find self-acceptance,
  • to find passion to overcome challenge in their lives.
  • - That's huge.
  • Self-acceptance is huge. - Because that's what
  • I had to find.
  • It's number one.
  • When I stopped living to impress other people,
  • and seek acceptance of others,
  • and started living to accept myself.
  • - Teach me about that.
  • - Well, you know, growing up, I was very badly bullied,
  • as a disabled child, you know?
  • I was the different kid in class,
  • so I was the easy target.
  • I was clearly vulnerable.
  • So, I was really badly bullied,
  • and so I spent a long time trying to dress
  • like the cool kids,
  • and listen to the cool music,
  • and do what I thought would make other people like me.
  • - Accept you.
  • - Yeah, and they didn't,
  • and so, eventually by 14, 15, I was like,
  • "Well, this isn't working.
  • "I might as well just listen to the music I want to,
  • "dress how I want to,
  • "and at least, even if then nobody likes me,
  • "I like myself."
  • - Right.
  • - Right? - Just like that?
  • That simple?
  • Yeah, and that's what I did,
  • and all of a sudden, not only was I so much happier,
  • 'cause I was actually being authentic,
  • but I actually did start making authentic connections
  • and relationships with people
  • because they were meeting Molly.
  • - Right.
  • - They weren't meeting this shell of who I was trying
  • to pretend I am.
  • - So, you want to fit in.
  • - I did for a long time,
  • but now, I don't care!
  • I'll dye my hair purple.
  • I'll wear what I want.
  • I have a wall of glitter in my room.
  • I'm just Molly.
  • You can like me or not,
  • but I'm happy with who I am.
  • - Yeah.
  • - And I think people see that,
  • and people gravitate towards that.
  • - So, how do you deal with the blind part of it.
  • How do you accept that?
  • - Well, it comes down to my grade 10 history teacher,
  • who was the most boring man I've ever met in my life.
  • He would literally sit, and just--
  • - Why? Why are you boring?
  • - He was this 75-year-old man who would just sit and read
  • straight from the textbook.
  • He wouldn't teach, he would just read to you,
  • and you'd just fall asleep.
  • - Oh, shoot.
  • He was in a retirement mode. (laughs)
  • - Yeah, exactly!
  • Exactly!
  • - He didn't wanna wear the harness anymore. (laughing)
  • - He was like, "I don't wanna be here anymore."
  • Yeah, he was, like, not excited to see the harness.
  • - Just let us know, mister.
  • You don't wanna wear the harness, that's all.
  • - Exactly,
  • but one day, this thing just twigged in me,
  • 'cause he said, "If you can't accept something in your life,
  • "you have to change it,
  • "and if you can't change it, you need to accept it."
  • - Right.
  • - And the reality is, there's no cure for my disease.
  • - Say it again.
  • - "If you can't accept something, you need to change it,
  • "If you can't change it, you need to accept it."
  • - Piece of cake.
  • - Yeah.
  • So, I was like look...
  • It just twigged in my mind, I was like,
  • "I can't change that I'm blind."
  • - Let me type that down.
  • - Right? It's a life-changing thing for me.
  • It really completely flipped my mindset.
  • - Andre, are you writing this thing?
  • (laughs)
  • "If you can't"
  • Oh, are you gonna text?
  • (person speaking faintly)
  • Okay, good.
  • - Because for me, it was like,
  • my whole life, from the time I was five years old,
  • when I was diagnosed,
  • I had spent fundraising to research for cures.
  • I had spent looking into stem-cell research,
  • and all these things,
  • and what they were doing to try to cure my blindness,
  • and there isn't a cure!
  • - There's not?
  • - So, why am I focusing on this mythical thing,
  • hoping one day it'll exist,
  • instead of living in the now,
  • and accepting my situation as it is?
  • And once I worked on accepting it,
  • I could move on.
  • And once I could move on,
  • I could enjoy every aspect of my life again,
  • instead of being so stuck in this resentful, negative,
  • cycle of hating my situation that I can't change.
  • So, that was a huge shift for me,
  • and that's what I wanna help other people
  • get to in their lives,
  • because at the end of the day--
  • - That's powerful.
  • - We all face challenge.
  • - Yeah!
  • - Some are really big challenges,
  • some are really small.
  • - That's right.
  • - But it's gonna be a consistent thing throughout our lives.
  • We're gonna have to keep facing challenge,
  • and keep overcoming it.
  • And we all have things we have to accept about ourselves.
  • - Mm-hmm.
  • - So, if I can help people, disabled or not,
  • get to that point in their lives,
  • that's what I wanna do.
  • That's my happiness.
  • - Especially the non-disabled, you know?
  • Being disabled is definitely a much easier way to say,
  • "Well, that's challenging."
  • - Yeah.
  • It's an obvious challenge.
  • - "Why her energy is so positive?"
  • "Why'd she continue with her life?"
  • "Why she wanna inspire people? Why"
  • Being disabled should be the most challenging thing in life.
  • - Yes, and that's how society's been trained to view it,
  • and that's what I wanna change for people.
  • - Thank you.
  • You know what I tell people about
  • the whole disabled/handicap thing,
  • I say, "Handicap people make dogs normal.
  • "Normal people, make dogs handicap."
  • 'Cause handicap people give dogs jobs,
  • and normal people, they don't give them a job.
  • So, that handicaps the dog, you know?
  • 'Cause you can handicap the soul, the heart, the mind.
  • It's not only the body that is handicapped.
  • - Yep.
  • - You know what I'm saying?
  • So, that resonates with me,
  • the whole perspective of what handicap is.
  • - Yeah.
  • - You know?
  • So, you just made it clear.
  • I said it all the time,
  • 'cause I seen handicapped people.
  • I never had the experience of interviewing one,
  • or being so close to one,
  • and having a friendship with one,
  • but the way you explain it,
  • and not only the way you explain it,
  • is the energy that you use to explain it that is real.
  • See, that's the authentic part.
  • So, I'm right here, experiencing what she's saying,
  • hearing it,
  • and feeling it,
  • and what she's saying is authentic.
  • It's not bullshit.
  • It's real.
  • - Yep.
  • - That's how you feel.
  • - Yeah.
  • - So, I appreciate that.
  • - And for me, if I can take all of that pain,
  • and turn it into purpose,
  • and make something of it,
  • that's my happiness.
  • That's why I'm here.
  • - Yeah.
  • - And I honestly wouldn't change a thing.
  • - That's bad.
  • - I really look at all--
  • - You're badass, Molly. (laughs)
  • - Thank you!
  • - "I wouldn't change a thing."
  • It was like, "Oh..."
  • - To me, sure you get to drive a car and I can't do that.
  • - Right.
  • - But I get this incredible relationship with a dog
  • that no able-bodied human will ever experience,
  • and that's special.
  • I mean, it's like nothing else,
  • and it goes back to them just being like,
  • "You need to give him a chance,"
  • and that afternoon when I was crying,
  • and I didn't want to accept him,
  • and he was laying at my feet like he is now.
  • I was still crying, I was still upset,
  • and he stood up,
  • and he put his bum on the couch like a little human,
  • and he put all four paws on the ground,
  • and he just looked over at me.
  • And I just looked at him,
  • and I had never seen a dog sit like a human,
  • where his butt's on the couch,
  • and his four paws are on the ground,
  • and he just looked at me,
  • and I knew he was so wise.
  • - Yeah.
  • - Like he knew.
  • And it was like he looked at me,
  • and was like, "I'm sorry."
  • Yeah, I saw that eye contact on the pool.
  • - Yeah, he just--
  • - The way he looked at me, like, "All right.
  • "You're helping me." - He's so wise.
  • He just knew.
  • He was just like, "I'm sorry that I'm not Gypsy,
  • "but just give me a chance,"
  • and I just laughed,
  • and I was like, "If he can make me laugh--"
  • - It's more like, "Are we doin' this shit, or what?"
  • - Yeah. I was just like, "I need to give him a chance."
  • - "You're wastin' my time. I'm ready."
  • - Yeah.
  • (laughing)
  • He's like, "I'm ready, I don't know why you're crying."
  • - And I was so glad I gave him a chance.
  • - "I'm ready to go. I'm here for you."
  • Another thing that I tell the people that I help,
  • sometimes you don't get the dog you want,
  • you get the dog you need.
  • - Yes.
  • - You know what I mean?
  • - And that was like I told you,
  • Gypsy, my first dog.
  • I wanted a dog named Cleo,
  • and the guide dog school--
  • - You're so specific. (laughing)
  • - I know, I wanted Cleo!
  • I was like, "Cleo's my dog.
  • "That's my girl,"
  • and they were like, "Gypsy wants you.
  • "Gypsy's chosen you,"
  • and the trainers were like,
  • "You'll learn to love Gypsy no matter what.
  • "Gypsy won't work for anybody else, she wants you,"
  • and it wasn't the dog I wanted at first,
  • but it was the dog I needed.
  • She was my guide dog for seven years,
  • and she taught me a hell of a lot,
  • and she went through a hell of a lot with me.
  • When you were talking about Daddy earlier,
  • and you saying he was with you
  • for that exact chapter in your life,
  • I turned to my mom,
  • and I was like, "That was like Gypsy."
  • I had got her right before my dramatic vision loss,
  • and she passed away right before
  • I started my own speaking business,
  • and my own YouTube channel,
  • and that's when I got Gallop.
  • And it was like she ended this very pivotal, important,
  • and painful chapter in my life with me,
  • and Gallop came to start
  • the next journey. - And you needed
  • that much excitement.
  • - Yeah, I needed that.
  • I was always say, 'cause she wagged her tail 24/7.
  • She would wag her tail in her sleep.
  • She would wag her tail when she was scared.
  • - Jeez.
  • - She just wagged it all the time,
  • and people would laugh!
  • They were like, "What is she so happy about?,"
  • and I think in a dark time in my life,
  • she was there to teach me to be happy.
  • - Yeah. Right!
  • - And I think in a difficult time of high stress in my life,
  • where I'm starting my business,
  • and I'm go, go, go,
  • and I'm moving from Canada to America,
  • and all these things,
  • and I'm traveling the world,
  • and I'm gaining all this great success,
  • which is great but it comes with stress.
  • He's here to teach me to be calm, to chill out.
  • - That's right.
  • - The moment I started bond with him,
  • I was like, "He's like a Buddha.
  • "He's my Buddha boy.
  • "He's just this zen creature,"
  • and I always laugh when...
  • You know, he's this big, black dog,
  • and people will see him sometimes and be scared,
  • and I'm like, "If only you knew."
  • - Yeah, this is the guy.
  • - This is the guy.
  • If you're afraid of dogs, this is the one to change it.
  • - This is the guy.
  • - This is the one for you.
  • - That's right.
  • - Well, Rio is the one to change your fear of birds.
  • (laughs)
  • - And I felt that,
  • 'cause usually I wouldn't be even close to a bird,
  • but I did feel calm around her to sit very close to her,
  • which is new for me.
  • - Plus, we have such a great trust,
  • and from day one, when I met her the first day,
  • my heart and her heart got together,
  • and her beak and my nose got together,
  • and her head and my chin.
  • She went with her head under my chin,
  • and it's almost like a hug.
  • - She nuzzled in.
  • - Yeah, she just went in,
  • and I said, "I'm yours,"
  • and that was it.
  • That was my first bird.
  • So, because I know that that feeling was present
  • when we were around you, she would've total trust you.
  • You have feel the heart of the animal,
  • you have to feel the spirit of the animal,
  • you have to know when their instincts are absolutely calm,
  • and that's something that you learn to feel,
  • and you as having this "handicap",
  • which it's not because you can see with your eyes closed.
  • You know what I mean?
  • - Mm-hmm.
  • - One of the exercise that I do here,
  • when we do TCWs,
  • which is Training Cesar's Way,
  • I ask people to close their eyes
  • so they can walk a pack of dogs,
  • 'cause I don't want them to see, I want them to feel.
  • - Yeah.
  • - You know what I mean?
  • So, I give them 10 dogs.
  • Five each side,
  • and then I say, "We're gonna practice trust,
  • "and then we're gonna practice calmness.
  • "That's all I want you to do,"
  • and when I ask them to close their eyes, they panic.
  • I say, "I'm holding your shoulder, don't worry about it."
  • "Are you sure?,"
  • and then you can see how their head start growing up,
  • like it's gonna come out of their neck.
  • - Yeah.
  • - You know what I mean?
  • It's like they're trying to balance themself,
  • detaching their head from their neck, you know?
  • Or their shoulders get really close to their ears,
  • like they don't know how to trust,
  • and completely let go and surrender,
  • so they can experience what I'm talkin' about,
  • which is just look from inside of you.
  • - And that's another gift that I feel
  • like blindness has given me.
  • - Yeah!
  • - Is not only to trust a dog,
  • but I have to trust society all the time.
  • I have to ask complete strangers
  • when I got to order a coffee,
  • "Is it my turn to go up?
  • "Can you help me?"
  • Like, I'm always asking complete strangers for help.
  • - Yeah.
  • - Just the other day, I went on a first date with a guy,
  • and the moment we met, I was like,
  • "Hey, I'm gonna teach you how to guide me."
  • It's, you know, I just--
  • - Gee! You took control that fast, Molly?
  • - Yeah! I have to! - Oh, my gosh!
  • You took control of the guy like, (snaps)
  • - I have to!
  • That's the thing. - Good for you, Molly.
  • - We went on two dates,
  • and he acted so into me,
  • and then (claps)
  • - Disappear?
  • - Ghost. Where'd you go?
  • - Oh, he didn't know what to do with you.
  • - His loss.
  • - Okurr!
  • (laughing)
  • (clapping)
  • Molly is in the house! Okay?
  • So, that's good, Molly.
  • I'm glad that you're confidence levels at the...
  • Yeah, so if a guy--
  • - Most men tell me I'm intimidating,
  • which is funny 'cause I'm 4'10".
  • - You are, Molly. You are.
  • Yeah, it's not your size.
  • It's your energy. You are.
  • You come across like you own the world,
  • which you should,
  • and so, not a lot of guys own themselves,
  • or know themselves.
  • So, it's true.
  • Women do mature faster than men,
  • because it's all about--
  • - And I think my situation made me mature hyper-speed.
  • - Yeah! I would say that.
  • I mean, you're guiding yourself a long time,
  • and it's guys that don't have what you have,
  • and they still don't know where they're going.
  • - Yep.
  • - You know where you're going.
  • You know what you have.
  • You know who you are,
  • and you know what you want,
  • and you already have a mission.
  • Listen, if a guy doesn't have a mission, drop him.
  • Just drop him like it's hot, like drop him.
  • (blows raspberry)
  • If a guy doesn't have a mission,
  • he's gonna waste your time
  • because he's gonna be in a "play, explore."
  • (laughing)
  • You remember when I said, "Follow, play, explore"?
  • He's gonna be in a play-explore state-of-mind,
  • and a woman like you,
  • you don't need a guy that is teenager type.
  • - Uh-uh.
  • - You know what I mean?
  • He's in a play-explore state.
  • You want a guy that's in
  • that leading-and-know-how-to-follow state.
  • - Dog advice, dating advice,
  • you get it all here.
  • - Yes! Well, it's the same.
  • To be a good partner to a woman that I learned,
  • I learned that from a dog,
  • because dogs are great listeners,
  • they make you laugh,
  • and if you need leadership they give it to you.
  • So, it's three positions in a pack, Molly.
  • In a pack of dogs, is the back of the pack.
  • Those are the most sensitive.
  • They listen to everything.
  • The middle of the pack is the guys who are happy-go-lucky,
  • and this is like the HR for the human world, right?
  • (laughs)
  • And then it's the front of the pack.
  • Those are protection, direction.
  • So, one thing that I have learned is
  • I need to be a great listener,
  • so a woman feels that she can trust me,
  • and that she can express herself,
  • and know that I wanna know her,
  • and if I feel that she's a little sad,
  • and then I make her laugh.
  • Happy-go-lucky,
  • and if she doesn't know what are we gonna do,
  • and then I take the position of direction, protection.
  • Obviously, as a man,
  • it's my instincts to protect, right?
  • But I have to learn when to give direction if it's needed.
  • So, listener, make women laugh,
  • and give direction if it's needed.
  • Otherwise, go back into the back of the pack.
  • Being a good listener to me
  • has gave me so much understanding in what I do for a living.
  • It's not that I tell the dog what to do.
  • It's that I listen to the dog,
  • what he wants me to help.
  • So, what makes me a good dog whisperer
  • is that I'm a good listener,
  • not that I tell dogs what to do.
  • That's really the key.
  • - Well, thanks for having me at The Ranch!
  • This was so fun! - I love you, Molly!
  • So, next time, Mexican food.
  • I'll make it.
  • Swimming.
  • - Mm-hmm.
  • - Walking with a pack of animals, migration,
  • and hopefully we can do some search and rescue.
  • (person speaking faintly)
  • - Yeah, and you take a picture with a bird.
  • So, we gotta make progress here, okay?
  • - More to be done.
  • - No more fear to birds,
  • especially with Rio.
  • Rio is a...
  • She's a goddess.
  • (laughs)
  • She's like a Beyonce.
  • - She's Beyonce.
  • - She's Beyonce. B. (laughs)
  • YouTube family, I'm always gonna ask you this question,
  • what did you learn?
  • Don't forget to subscribe.
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  • by all understanding how to connect, communicate,
  • and have an awesome relationship with Mother Nature,
  • and don't forget to watch this video
  • with Molly Burke when she goes.
  • I love it very much,
  • and we both are awesome people!
  • That's why. - Woo! I agree!
  • (laughs)
  • (upbeat pop music)
  • - Guys, thank you for watching my YouTube channel.
  • Make sure you subscribe, like and comment,
  • and most importantly, thank you for helping me to achieve
  • better humans, better planet!
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Can you trust animals when you can't see them? Today I talk with an awesome human, and blind YouTuber, Molly Burke. Watch me help Molly's guide dog overcome his fear of swimming: /watch?v=wOjvwJyJy1c

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