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Before The Person :: Relationship Goals (Part 1)

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Aug 07, 2017

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  • What we bout to start a series, that's about to be awesome. I
  • Think this is one of those things that
  • God wanted to happen in this timing. I'm
  • talking about
  • relationships and
  • We titled this message relationship goals because we know that's something that is in popular culture
  • And we see different things all the pictures that that we saw earlier people say oh
  • that's the kind of relationship that I want and that's what I
  • Want from my life eventually and all these things so I thought it would be appropriate for us to do a series about
  • relationship goals
  • and
  • we're going to start from the beginning and we're going to go all the way through this thing you do not want to miss the
  • Next six weeks because this series
  • We're going to talk so real some stuff has not been said in a church you've ever been in before
  • But we're going to say that right here. Oh
  • Because I really do believe that relationships are
  • Being defined more by Pop culture and what the world says
  • then what the word of God says and
  • Because many people don't teach it with balance and with understanding and with wisdom it just seems more easy
  • To go with what everybody else is doing, but I really do believe that
  • God is going to give wisdom and revelation through this series
  • And I am ready for us to start being an example of what relationships should look like
  • these happiest hours
  • No, no, but honestly when people think of relationships. They don't look at the church
  • When they think about relationships they don't think about Christians
  • When they think about relationships, they don't think about God's people
  • And there's a reason and honestly if we be real real about many believers have failed that relationship
  • Many people save sanctify love. God something clapping all day and die lonely
  • Preach to the Nation's have no Friends. I
  • Mean if we're honest with it
  • Many of us have had more
  • sexual relationships than we have had cars
  • You get a new one of those every three to five years
  • Let's be honest
  • because if we're not then we never ever get to see we think that's normal and
  • What I came to tell you is that some of these things that we've been doing that I've done okay?
  • So don't visit all he done came back. He judging up no I?
  • Did it but it was because nobody told me they never showed me they never laid out for me
  • what is the biblical model of
  • Relationship, how are we supposed to go out normal I suppose Si for America. I know I'm supposed to be in a monogamous relationship
  • I know I'm supposed to date court. Have a front what which one?
  • tell me how
  • show me how
  • Show me what the word says about it. So we don't do all of that in this series today is an introduction
  • because I've been stopped up spiritually for five weeks and
  • This one practice could be for hours easy, but it's going to be 40 minutes this morning amen and so
  • I want to just kind of set the table for what this thing looks like a man
  • Why don't you get out your notes and and get up your bibles right now? I want to look at this from just the terminology
  • relationshipgoals everybody say relationship goals
  • Say it one more time like you many relations
  • Okay, so how many would say they have some relationship goals like there's something that you desire and related people scared to lift a handed
  • Like I don't know
  • Okay, how many people have some relationship goals friends family?
  • Married you have goals in your relationship. I really think a lot of people understand the relationship part of it
  • They understand that they want to be connected with somebody they understand that they want to walk and talk with somebody
  • But the goal part, I think is a little
  • Misconstrued or a little distorted and I want to look at the definition of gold, okay? A goal is the result or
  • Achievement towards which an effort is directed?
  • So effort has to be directed to reach a goal
  • It's the aim or it's the end now
  • I look at this because no matter if you're single, you're married you're divorced. It's complicated
  • You're a stalker. I don't care what level of relationship that you are in right now
  • God wants you to have successful relationships this whole series is so that you can win at
  • relationships
  • But many of us don't have our Aim
  • Directed when it comes to relationship. We take whatever comes
  • We do whatever is comfortable
  • But we don't have aim and if you don't have an you cannot have a goal you cannot have
  • relationship goals if you're not aimed in the direction of what God has for you and
  • I saw a video earlier this week that Kinda accurately depicts. What most of us look like in
  • Relationship I want you to take a look at this real quick
  • Target is over here
  • Now as funny as that is isn't that what many of our relationships look like I?
  • think he might be the one I
  • Thought that was my business partner I
  • really want to hang with this group of people and
  • we're not aimed at anything so and we're blinded by what culture says and so we shoot at everything and
  • What happens is people and things get damaged when we do not have clear aim in what God wants us to have in relationship?
  • Many of us are products of people shooting and trying to have relationship without proper Aim?
  • proper goals
  • Things that were the standard for our lives that were set by God
  • so I want us to go to the beginning today because it's one of those things that I start to look at that a
  • Target needs to be standing still and
  • if you're using culture as
  • The barometer of what relationships should look like that's a moving Target
  • like
  • Relationship says marriage looks like this in one decade then it looks like this and another decade
  • It's we're supposed to be like this. This is what deigning now
  • We have Netflix and chill you don't even have to be committed to anybody to cross the line into private areas
  • Y'all came to be fake this morning
  • What I came to do is dispel the enemy that hides in darkness and to bring light to every person that's listening
  • What God wants for every single one of us is for us to have relationship?
  • but we have to have a goal that is aimed at something that is stable and
  • Let me submit to you that the only thing that is unchangeable unknown being unwavering is the word of God
  • See, Isaiah tells us like this in Isaiah 40 it says that that that the the grass will wither and the flower will fade
  • But the word of God will stand ever
  • lasting
  • And so I'm just asking you for six weeks, I know
  • That you have the cardassians have taught you a lot about relationships
  • Like I know
  • And I and I know that you have blogs that you listen to and people
  • but I'm asking you for six weeks can we let the standard of
  • relationships be the word of God and
  • Can we see?
  • what possibly may happen in our hearts our minds and our lives if
  • We would follow a biblical model of relationships instead of our
  • Feelings when it comes to relationships is that okay? Okay? So let's go all the way to the beginning genesis, okay?
  • Let's go to Genesis because in Genesis is the first time that we see relationship, okay?
  • I can't really go into it right now because that'd be a whole nother message
  • But before there was ever a person there was already relationship
  • The father the son and the holy spirit, they were three equal personalities in one there was already relationship
  • That's why when when they came at the beginning, they said let us make man in our image
  • That was a conversation that was relationship that was happening
  • But I just want us to focus on us for a second and I want to show you something
  • I was talking to my friend Charles this week and and we started discussing
  • Something and we found something really really cool in the bible we found the first time
  • That God said it's not good I
  • Mean the very first time you know you tell your children. I know no, that's not good you
  • Tell people uh don't eat that
  • That's not good. We found the first time God said it wasn't good, so
  • Let me help you paint this picture
  • Genesis Chapter 1 verse 3. God says let there be light creates light and he says it's good
  • Okay, then we go to Genesis
  • Chapter 1 verse 10 and he makes water and land and after he makes water and land. What does he say it's good, okay?
  • Y'all help me then he makes vegetation broccoli spinach kale
  • All of those things and then he looks over and says that is going to make some good soul food, and he said it's good
  • Then verse 18. He says let me go ahead and make a differentiation between day and night. Here's the sun
  • Here's the moon and then he looked over and he said it's good now y'all got to help me preach. This he said it's
  • Okay
  • Then he made the sea creatures willie nemo. He made everybody in that moment
  • He looked at all of them, and he said it's good then he made the wild animal animal
  • Simba Pumpa Timon he made all of them, and he looked back, and he said it's good
  • Look at Genesis Chapter 2 verse 18
  • then the Lord God said
  • After he made man. It's not good
  • Now hold on we've had six days
  • of
  • I mean perfect I
  • Mean good, it's good
  • everything's good and
  • And after he makes man in
  • His image in his likeness ben. He looks up at now he's God all by
  • himself
  • Doesn't need nobody else who would know it's a mess-up
  • I mean who actually was there to say you messed up like how how?
  • How did he even get to the place that it's not good unless he knew something about us that we didn't even know
  • So then the Lord God said it's not good for man to be
  • So he said I'm going to make a helper who is just right for him
  • My first point today is God wants a relationship for you
  • like
  • Some of y'all came in here
  • it's like that's all don't come to church because I just don't like people and I just
  • Really don't understand why guy every month everybody say hello and everybody wants to be in my face
  • And we need to greet our neighbors, and I want to work from home
  • And I really want to take online courses because I don't want to meet people and all this listen. That's not god's intent for you
  • God created you to be in relationship with others and all the introverts are like I hate this church, but this is
  • This is what I want to tell you, but it's a mate on the inside of you that
  • God created you to be in relationship and not that he's just like that's a good option. He said it's not good
  • It's not a good idea for you to set up a life that is
  • Guarded gated by yourself isolated because it's where the enemy comes to attack
  • When you're isolated in your thoughts, you're isolated in your relationships. You're isolated in your dealings. That's where the enemy becomes your best friend
  • But he'll suggest he'll whisper and he'll tell you who you are
  • That's not who you are he will begin to convince you that you can't and you really can do
  • You know the enemy's native tongue is lie
  • So if you ever hear anything that goes against the word of God guess what it is a lie
  • But how many of them do we believe?
  • How many of them do we?
  • Accept and we let them take root in our heart, and then they grow into things that stop us from reaching purpose and destiny
  • And what God is saying if you have somebody around you they could plug those things on be like whoa. What is that?
  • You're not fat. You're just husky
  • Don't believe the lie of the enemy
  • But just think about why can never and I will never and I won't and you just need somebody around you to help
  • And so I just wanted everybody to know which is not really where I want to stay today
  • But I just need you to understand that God wants
  • Relationship for you somebody just say that God wants relationship for me
  • That's healing for somebody no. No you need to say it again. God wants relationship for me
  • He does want you to have a best friend
  • Even though the last woman left you high and dry
  • No, he wants you to have a safe place. No, I'm I'm ministering healing to somebody right now
  • God wants you to find a pastor or a leader that can guide you and help?
  • I know the last one huge g up and didn't appreciate you at all, but God wants relationship for you
  • He wants you to be in a marriage that works
  • That is surrounded by love honor respect and fun the first three I know
  • But my God is a redeemer
  • Our God is a redeemer. So whatever was broken. Whatever was messed up. Whatever was jacked up. God says
  • I'll take all of that. If you allow me to and I work it for your good
  • So God wants relationship for you okay? So as we start looking at that. I know you know this but
  • ecclesiastes 4 9 says that two people are better than one so
  • We'll just leave it there you can read the rest of that on your own time
  • But I just want you to realize that two of y'all are better than you
  • Who are you linked up with who has God linked you up with?
  • Because when you find those people you'll be better
  • Okay, Lord. I have to read the rest of it. Okay for they can help each other succeed
  • Who doesn't want that two are better than one?
  • Because they can help each other succeed if one person falls, how many people have fallen at some point in your life?
  • Me more than I want to admit
  • But listen if one person falls the other can reach out and help
  • Maybe I'll talk about this next week
  • but you can tell if your relationship is from God just
  • By the qualification does that relationship help you?
  • They miss me
  • you can tell
  • that if this fool you messin with
  • It's supposed to be in your life if this relationship is
  • Helping you
  • We tolerate more relationships
  • That are taking away from us that are stealing our pieces that are ravaging our joy that have us up Emma
  • Oh my God. I think he's gonna break up break up with him
  • He is not helping you
  • She's not helping them our friends. They are fly. They are fake they are not
  • Helping you
  • So so it doesn't take a word from God if the people you around keeping you stuck to your chains
  • They're not if you're praying that God will remove symptoms of the people that you hang around
  • they're not helping you and
  • God wants every relationship in your life. He was one of your goals to be that the relationships help, you succeed
  • okay, so
  • God wants a relationship with you first and
  • Then he wants a relationship for you with others, and I don't know why in church
  • I it's one of those things that is just like one of my pet peeves gets on my last nerve that
  • Everybody Act like relationships are like Bobby boucher is Mama the devil. You ever seen the Waterboy and
  • She says everything is the devil
  • You some of y'all ain't seen that movie you're not going to get it but but she thinks everything is the devil. Yes
  • Foosball that foosball is the devil so you meant football girls are the devil many people make you feel like relationship with others especially
  • relationships with the opposite Sex are the devil
  • They're not the devil, but relationships where the purpose is not known
  • Open the door
  • to the Devil
  • and
  • So I came to the conclusion that if we know the purpose for relationship
  • Then we won't allow for the cracks
  • That let him into our relationships, and so I want us to look at this
  • Because I think that God designed in order for your relationships to be successful. I
  • Think that he laid out. I mean because my God is really good he wants us to win
  • He wants us to succeed at relationship, so I think he laid out in order that every relationship
  • That we ever have whether it be friendship whether it be marriage wear it be business partners
  • Whatever it can succeed
  • And he gave it to us in the second chapter of Genesis and a lot of us just skip over it
  • So I want us to read this passage of scripture
  • we're going to read Genesis 2 verse 8 then we're going to skip down to
  • 15 and then we're going to see God speak to us this morning
  • It says genesis chapter 2 verse 8 it says been the lord. God planted a garden in Eden it was in the east and
  • There he placed the man underlying placed
  • The Lord placed the man he had made underline made
  • Verse 9 the Lord God made all sorts of trees. Go up from the ground trees that were beautiful and that produced
  • delicious fruit underlined the word produced
  • So he placed he made he produced in
  • the middle of the Garden
  • He placed the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil jump down to verse 15
  • He said now he's going to give us the reason that he placed man in the Garden the Lord
  • God placed the man in the garden of Eden
  • To tend and watch over it. So just underline tend and watch
  • But the Lord God warned him you may freely eat
  • every fruit in the Garden
  • except everybody just say except
  • Just bow that just draw a circle and some arrows
  • Except the tree of the knowledge of good and evil if you eat that fruit. You are surely going to die
  • Then this is where we find. I want everybody to get this now in progression
  • I skipped ahead and gave you verse to verse 18 early Earth
  • It is not good for man to be alone all this was said
  • And then this is where this verse comes in then the lord. God said you know what?
  • It's not good for a man to be alone. I'll make a helper who is just right for him
  • the title of this message is before the person I
  • Think there are five things that God wanted to give all of us before he gave us the person I
  • Think he just outlined for all of us
  • That there's some things that he wants to deposit into our life before anybody partners with us
  • See because what we do many times is we look for people to take the place of what only God can give us
  • and
  • He laid out a really clear foundation, so I'm gonna run through these and I hope I mean
  • I hope you grab one of them and just catch it and be like my relationships will never be the same
  • What's the first thing that God desires to give you before he gives you a person he desires to give you a place
  • Not just your 400 score apartment. That's not exactly what I was talking about okay, but but but what I am saying is
  • God desires
  • to place you in
  • A place where she knows purpose can happen in your life
  • Okay, now let me help you many of us desire to place ourselves
  • Especially in my generation I have so many people that come up to me and say I'm about to move to here
  • About to move to La I'm doctor move to New York. I'm about to move to Dallas. I'm about the mu2, Oklahoma City
  • I'm about to move I'm about to move. I'm about the move they're searching for a place
  • And they're searching for people to validate the place that they're in
  • But what what God gave Adam was a place that he didn't have anything to do it
  • He said God created Eden and he placed him
  • See what you think is the coincidence is God's placement for you?
  • He placed you in that family they crazy, but there's some things that God had to teach you
  • There's some things that he had to develop on the inside of you
  • There's some things you had to build up a tolerance
  • Against for the purpose that he has called you to and we fight the place so hard oh
  • Come on. Y'all we fight the job that God placed us in oh
  • I'm coming in to y'all now
  • We fight the people God placed us around
  • We fight the church he planted us in
  • Well, they don't do it like that. They don't play my songs they don't do what I knew I like the more like
  • And they want a little woo, and I decide I don't know and God said maybe you're an answer
  • For something that's supposed to happen that I see up ahead, but you're fighting the place
  • that I push you know can I talk to my college students for a second he placed you at the
  • school year at
  • Yeah, I know all your other friends went there, and I know all your other people went there
  • But God he's the one over promotions. He's the one over access granted or access denied, and he placed you
  • You may not see it. I don't didn't see
  • Why she was in that place when he got there?
  • But this is the most beautiful thing the second thing that God reveals in a place is purpose
  • See it said that he put him in eden to tend and work
  • the vegetation the land
  • See what people are missing is they're trying to get a person they're ignoring the place and so they don't understand their purpose
  • God got you in that place on
  • purpose
  • But if you're always denying the place, I hate this job
  • And God saying I'm trying to reveal purpose at that job only I know you only make $10 an hour
  • But I'm trying to reveal who I called you to be
  • There's something at this level you gotta get I know it doesn't keep working here
  • But you got to get it right here
  • Because if you would embrace the place God has placed you you'll start embracing the purpose why he puts you there?
  • And guess what this is all before a person
  • so God
  • Takes Adam before Eve
  • He plants him and eden he I want y'all to get the the strength of the word I'm saying he placed him
  • This was not an option
  • There's some situation. God puts you in
  • That it seems like I'm just between a rock and a hard place
  • Why am I here has anybody been at that plate like why am I keep?
  • And the only thing that I I can come to the conclusion of is that if I'm here and it's uncomfortable. It's for my growth
  • because uncomfortability and growth are like oil and water they don't go together, so
  • when you're uncomfortable, and you can't stand the place you are god's trying to pull back purpose in your life and
  • Adam
  • Started working in purpose before he ever got a person
  • So what I'm saying to you. Is that why you're looking for him or looking for her
  • God's trying to reveal to you. Why he has you her?
  • That's my ebonics. Let me say it right
  • While God is
  • while you're trying to
  • Figure out what's going on with him or what's going on with her. God is trying to show you why he's placed you here
  • and
  • until you stop fighting
  • Having people in the places that only God can feel
  • She will always be disappointed
  • with where God has you
  • always
  • So the first thing God gave Adam was a place then he gave Adam a purpose
  • And then I want you to see this other part
  • And this really to me is awesome because um this kinda is an indicator if God's in your place
  • Or your purpose he gave provision
  • That's so so. I want y'all to see it cuz some of y'all. Don't believe me
  • He gave provision verse 9. He said the lord. God made all sorts of trees grow up who made him grow up
  • So if you have to go and position yourself to provide for what God has called to do. It's not him
  • He supplies where he calls us to
  • It's the point-blank period of walking by Faith, but God only funds his ideas
  • Some of y'all. Just got your access denied to your plan well
  • God
  • I thought this was what's gonna happen and I came away with this after I listen to
  • Oceans, and this was the plan that you gave me and I only fund my plan
  • I'll listen to you pray about yours
  • But I only provide for mine
  • so
  • If you've been in a season for a long time
  • And you're trying to provide for that it just seems like there's never enough
  • And my God is not going through and it ain't like I'm always right here
  • You may need to go back and check and see if you're in the right place
  • That you're fulfilling purpose
  • Because God makes provision Growth
  • wherever he is and
  • Remember, this is all before a perfect
  • So so so he gives him
  • What's the first one a place?
  • Then he gave him
  • purpose and then he provided
  • provision now watch this
  • then
  • He gave him identity
  • Let me help you he says
  • he says in verse eight he placed the man that he made he had made and
  • If you go back to genesis 1:26, we find out how man was made?
  • He was God said let us make man in
  • our image to be like who the world
  • Kanye and Kim
  • Whoo-hoo, he made us to be like him
  • So if your identity who you think you are your character your personality?
  • All of those things are being defined by anybody else, but God
  • You have a mis view of who you're supposed to be
  • And this is the enemy's number one tactic for you is to have you not know who you are
  • The enemy is not scared of a faker
  • He's not scared of somebody who's posing to be somebody else. He's not scared of a fake a
  • Counterfeit he's scared of you finding your purpose know of who you are not caring what anybody else is doing her obeying God?
  • Flat-footed and standing and who you've created you to be
  • And why then is the age of this world always trying to get us to compare to what somebody else is?
  • Because if I can throw you off that your genes aren't tight enough
  • Or you don't have a house like this or your ministry is not big enough
  • Or your family is kind of ugly
  • So don't post pictures about them and all of these other different things that we are always comparing and trying to see it gets us
  • Off of our identity let me tell you this one story that
  • I had seen
  • some guys who were preaching and they were successful and where I thought I wanted to be and
  • I'm not going to say who and where when how?
  • But I saw this one preacher in this outfit that I thought was cool, and I was struggling with my identity
  • See God had already called me something, but I wanted to change my name I
  • Wanted to start looking like somebody else, so I went to the store where this person allegedly
  • Got this outfit from and I forgot that I got thighs
  • and a booty and um
  • and
  • At the time I had a little more of a gut
  • Put on the largest size in all of these
  • items and looked in the mirror and
  • I literally felt like an idiot
  • looking like cuz I knew who I was
  • but I had put myself in the position thinking I could look like somebody else and it made me look like an idiot I
  • Looked at myself in that mirror trying to suck everything
  • I I was so tight y'all my core my legs my everything else understand. I still just look like a
  • sausage
  • And what I realized at that moment. This is a very small example
  • But what I realized at that moment is that I can never be completely comfortable in the identity of somebody who's not me I?
  • will always be trying to curtail and
  • Be and God, this is a beautiful thing you don't have to guess what your identity is
  • He's giving you an identity
  • You're a king's kid
  • You're joint heirs with Criteria
  • There is nothing that is impossible for you because of christ who lives inside of you you are the head and not the tail
  • You are above only and not beneath when you walk into a room
  • Mountain start to move either you believe it or you don't either you've accepted
  • Somebody else's identity or you know who you are in Christ. I did somebody
  • to stop accepting
  • But somebody who didn't know their identity told you
  • How you don't believe somebody who don't know who they are so?
  • That's why I go back to the thing that doesn't change I
  • Go back to the word of God
  • but I heard this one saying that if you don't know who you are or
  • If you don't stand for something you'll fall for anything y'all y'all heard that one the problem
  • is that most believers have not been in the book enough to be able to find out their
  • Identity so people tell you who your identity is on Facebook instagram?
  • Business meetings and all this other stuff and you take on that perception and God says don't believe a lot
  • Don't believe it. I created you like that on purpose that little kourt
  • I'm going to use that to change people's lives a little thing that everybody's telling you is just a little you're just a little oh
  • What's wrong with you?
  • Just a few burritos sure it's abajo combo
  • That that's the thing that God wants to use to touch more people who are missing some burritos. They understand what I'm saying
  • God wants to use all of you
  • He wants to use every part of you, but you have to know your identity is confirmed and affirmed in him
  • And that's that's what God gave to Adam before a person
  • Okay, so so let me tell you the last thing we got four of them okay. So what's the first one he gave Adam?
  • he gave him a place then he gave them and
  • Then he gave them
  • then he gave them and
  • Then he gave them parameters oh
  • oh
  • Look at it. He said
  • verse verse
  • 16 but the Lord God warned Him
  • You may freely eat?
  • Not now freely eat. I love you. Dad that is I could say anything. He said he showed you telling me
  • Gimme Say it
  • Y'all TV and feed right here put forever
  • now watch
  • Watch watch watch. He said you can freely eat of the fruit of
  • Every tree in the Garden, but what but watch what what?
  • except
  • Now what most what the world will tell you is how can a loving God?
  • Why would a why we're gracious love means?
  • all-Powerful, God
  • That may make there be lemon
  • what what why why is there an accept because he loves you and
  • Any good parent knows that if you don't set limitations on your children
  • They're not going to hurt themselves on purpose
  • But they're going to hurt themselves
  • Because of what's around we got gates in our house because I got a three year old in a two year old
  • We understand what I'm saying and many believers are spiritually immature
  • and
  • So without parameters now just think about it every tree except
  • Like this wasn't like there's only two trees
  • Like Beyond this time. I'll say it wasn't just this tree or this tree and as I went on well
  • I really he said every other tree
  • but he gave them parameters and
  • He gave him parameters before a person
  • because if you don't have a standard
  • if you don't have a standard
  • before you get in relationships
  • the relationships will create the standard that you live by and
  • Why so many people are hurt by relationships is because they did not listen to the parameters
  • that God gave
  • for purity
  • for accountability
  • For being honest and open we didn't listen to the parameters and so we get into the relationship
  • Can we let that define what this feel good don't it feel good to you. Thank you for giving me?
  • Lan nine months later, why
  • Because we we did not
  • have per limp and watch this and
  • two are better than one at
  • everything even
  • messing up, so
  • If I don't have a standard and I get with somebody that don't have low standard guess what we got to do
  • Create a hot to mess. Do you understand what I'm saying okay?
  • But I want you to understand that these five things God gave
  • Before he ever gave a person and I hear some of y'all first corinthians 10
  • This is just need to add this for you paul helps us he say well. I'm allowed to do anything
  • But not everything is good for you
  • And you say I'm allowed to do anything under grace under under the curse that has me unless fear
  • But then he says not everything is beneficial
  • The real power of living a mature Christian life is when you know you can and you don't have to
  • like like like like the real power of
  • being
  • Secure because I know my identity and I know I'm in the right place, and I know I'm moving in purpose
  • And I understand what I'm doing before a person. It's that I can do whatever yeah, I could go dream
  • Yeah, I could go. Yeah, I could go talk to them. Yeah
  • I could start up some relationship online with some random person in New Zealand
  • But I don't need a rule anymore to tell me that
  • Because I've been freed
  • By the love relationship. I have with God
  • But some things you only learn when they first start off as parameters
  • My daughter knows now not to run into the street because we set that parameter
  • Now that she knows how to look out for cars and watch out for stuff now
  • I'm walking if she said that guy oh, no, no
  • Hold my hand
  • See what I once taught her. She's now reminding me
  • Because the the wall of a mature believer is you set those parameters?
  • and then you walk with somebody even somebody who's even younger than you in the face and they remind you of the
  • Parameters that are set to keep us safe
  • Now hear me all of these things God gave
  • a person and
  • what we think is that people can take us to the place we want to go and
  • People can give us what we need provision and people can tell us who we are
  • Identity and people can give us purpose and people can set our parameters, but there is only one person who?
  • can
  • real and has
  • everything you need and that's God I
  • Want to show you this?
  • As we leave you just think about all the relationships you have in your life
  • You think about people you come in contact with this little orange ball represents people?
  • like how many times we go to school and we meet people and they
  • tell us our genes aren't cool and
  • the teacher tells us that we learn a little funny and we have a brother that picks on us because
  • Cheese has a problem with his own identity and then we get a little older, and then we like allow people
  • To tell us, you should go to this school
  • And you should be around these people and you should you should stay around him a if you want to really succeed
  • You should you should be around them and then we we come into our adult lifes
  • And we look at what we should have by 19 and what we should have by 20
  • Come on some of y'all are those like I'm 24. I should about how I should have a car
  • I should have kids come on. How many of us have looked at our lives and said we should be here
  • Why?
  • because of what people
  • have said and
  • You start to look at your whole life and you start to see what others are doing and you look at Instagram?
  • And you look at Facebook and you see and you know people leave
  • but what happens is this is our vessel and
  • What's filling us is?
  • What other people?
  • Have told us
  • We should be
  • If this container represented our lives in those five areas the place
  • We're supposed to be our purpose provision
  • Identity the parameters we've let Society the world
  • others fill us up
  • but then when I look at the word
  • Second Peter 1:3 it says by his divine power
  • By God's Divine power
  • God has already given us
  • everything we need I
  • Want you? I want you to see those two words everything we need
  • for living a godly life
  • Of as am I cuz I know they're still stuff. I'm struggling with let me tell you when he gave it to you
  • when you received
  • All of this by coming to know him
  • See pastor mike I got all these people's opinions. I got all this other stuff. How do I get this out by coming to know?
  • before a person if
  • You get to know the creator
  • He'll begin to feel all the areas that are filled by people's opinions attitudes
  • And relationship I see some married people. I do not know these steps before I married her
  • So Mike. I'm sitting here and I
  • see
  • Somebody I laughed too hard
  • Let's straight. Look straight. Okay. What I'm saying is
  • All you have to do
  • to see God
  • Start to move things that have been in your life out is
  • Spend more time with him
  • How do you do that Faster Mike through the word?
  • Finding out your place your purpose your identity the parameters by prayer
  • Talking to him letting them talk back to you by accountability and small groups. Hey, we're signing up for these b
  • Groups today, not just so we can have friends
  • We're signing up for these V groups because the bible tells us. This is how we get healed
  • like some of us are dealing with real issues and James tells us to confess those things one to another pray for each other and
  • That's how you get healing some of y'all. Come up here every Sunday for healing, but if you got a community group, you'd get healing
  • If you get real healing because it's not in need just laying my hands on you
  • It's in you being able to release that and you see in God's church not the organization, but the organisms
  • Surrounds you in love and help you be free. I'm encouraging every person today. I don't like people
  • I've never signed up for a group. It's not good
  • Okay
  • So I dare you to get in a small group
  • Because when you allow more God in can you bring me?
  • that the pure water of the Lord
  • Now just put that one down. Thank you. So this is this is what living water looks like God
  • I'm just going to start reading my word every day and
  • It doesn't feel like anything's happening
  • It doesn't feel like anything changed
  • It just feels a little juicy on Sunday
  • but real dry throughout the week, but
  • Anything that is worth doing is worth doing
  • continually and
  • So that's why you have to get the discipline and you know there's some point that the things in our life
  • That have been defining us
  • it starts to be
  • overtaken see where my identity was
  • from people it starts to become
  • Defined by God
  • for what happens when we are better than we used to be and
  • We stop letting God
  • pour into our life
  • What we look like is lukewarm
  • So I can post anything on insta stories because I don't have my identity
  • required
  • and it's my birthday so I can go while out and
  • And you know I'm I'm financial stress so I can drink because this is what I do to release
  • But God is good. Hey all the time and all the time. God is a and he may delay
  • But from afar, what's more visible?
  • well
  • From back, I mean if I was to take somebody to the end of the parking line say, what do you see?
  • They may not even know there's anything in here
  • All they would see is these orange balls
  • The same way that they see
  • our inconsistencies
  • and I are being hypocritical then they see our flesh and
  • What God says you don't have to feel judged by that?
  • just keep pouring me over it just
  • Just keep coming to church just get into small Gupta just allow me to overtake you and Overrun everything
  • now watch
  • This is my favorite part. This is my favorite part
  • I said this is the favorite part this is my favorite when the lies come back
  • They only can stay on the surface
  • look see
  • Rick when you're filled up with God
  • When the enemy comes to lie to you that you're not
  • something and you can't do something and you will never be I
  • don't care how much I try
  • They can't it can't stick I
  • Came to encourage somebody
  • Allow God to put you in a place allow him to give you a purpose allow him to define your identity
  • allow him to be your provision allows him talk set your parameters and
  • Allow him to fill you up
  • Because when he does it
  • Nothing the enemy throws at you will be able to take root somebody give God praise in this way
  • Come on. If you're going to allow God to filled you up. I want you to give God a praise in this place
  • hallelujah
  • hear me
  • Y'all be seated hear me
  • healings happening right now all over this building
  • There's some of you that that you're understanding why?
  • God has not been holding back the relationship from you
  • He's the bible tells us that he's merciful and patient
  • He wished that no one we lost
  • So he's not been holding it from you. He's been holding it back for you. Oh
  • See God why am I 35 and 40 and I'm not he's been holding it that business partner. You've been trying to con
  • To be your partner. God said no no no no no because they have some things in them
  • That I don't want to become your identity
  • So until you let me fill it up. I can't release them to come because they can come when you're filled
  • Because whatever they try to drop it stays on the surface and you get a friend or a wife see my wife is the ones
  • You know like what is that?
  • know that your attitude ah
  • You don't dress like that. You know you don't do that. See that's why it's good for you not to be alone
  • But somebody else can come in and be like no, I'm not them
  • but
  • that only can happen when you're filled I
  • want you to understand that we're going to talk about dating in sex and marriage and all those other things, but
  • My last point is that if God's not enough?
  • no person
  • ever will be
  • Like like if he doesn't feel because what we do myles monroe said I say it all the time
  • Where the purpose of a thing is not not?
  • Abuse is inevitable
  • May I submit to you that many of us have been trying to put people in
  • the place of
  • identity
  • purpose
  • Parameters, and so they get abused and you get disappointed
  • Because they were never meant to go there
  • He gave all of these things and then said hmm now that I've filled all of those places. Well, it's not good
  • With all of that, it's not good for you to be alone
  • and
  • So he made a helper just right
  • Frank I'm here to encourage you that there are people friendships relationships business partners that are just
  • for you
  • You gotta allow him to fill it up first father. I pray for every person
  • Under the sound of my voice forgive us. God
  • forgive me
  • God for allowing people to fill the place that only you can feel God
  • I know we have all of these relationship goals, but God our first goal should be knowing who we are in you
  • God, I just thank you that you are giving us
  • The ability to be okay with the place. You've put us in
  • How do we understand God that you have a purpose for us?
  • God, and we will know our identity and you as you make provision for us
  • God, and we listen and obey and observe the parameters that you've given us father. God
  • I pray for every person who this word is really trying to penetrate their heart and pull back
  • Lifestyles that they've accepted. God. I thank you that you do the deep work, holy spirit
  • You're the one that illuminates and changes us from the inside out. God
  • I'm asking you to do it in me and I'm asking you to do it in every person as listening
  • God, we trust you we believe you and we thank you father
  • God that you're going to fill us up come on
  • Somebody just tell God fill me up fill fill me up father feel my identity feel my purpose fill me up
  • God, and we will be sure to give you the glory honor and praise and thank you
  • When the people or the person comes, but father let us be content in what you do in our lives before the person in
  • Jesus name amen
  • Let's give. God some praise in this place

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